
I wonder if there are people who were born with a natural cooking ability. With an intuition for knowing just what a recipe needs. With a knack for adding the perfect amount of seasoning and spice. With the instinctive touch to make the perfect adjustment that elevates the dish from good to amazing.
I wasn’t. I absolutely was not a natural-born cook. I became the cook I am today (which – all modesty aside – is a very good cook) after years of hard work combined with a willingness to accept critique and the generosity of others who shared their knowledge, tips and recipes. And it is this last component which I am addressing today. Those who share.
My go-to cake recipe came from Mom; the recipe for the world’s greatest pizza sauce was given to me by my sister; a previous co-worker generously shared her husband’s secret for an amazing artichoke dip; I learned the secret to homemade fried rice during a brief conversation with a man who cooked at a favorite Chinese restaurant; and the list could go on and on.
But mixed in with all these treasures are recipes that are also missing. I never did get a friend’s mother’s famous apple pie recipe. The only person she would give it to was her own daughter who was sworn to secrecy. And I would dearly love my friend’s dill pickle recipe, but she has considered selling them someday, and wants to keep her recipe a secret just in case.
Personally, I have always been generous with my recipes. If someone asks, I share. To me, it’s an honor to be asked. And only once have I regretted it.
By all accounts, Paul’s grandmother was an amazing cook. Although I never had the privilege of enjoying anything she made herself, I did inherit some of her treasured recipes. Her biscuit recipe is unlike any other I have ever seen, and it is the only recipe I ever use. I used to watch Paul’s Dad make these amazingly light and delicious biscuits many times and saw how important it was to mix the dough and cut the biscuits quickly, flipping them in scorching hot grease in a searingly hot pan and then into a hot, hot oven where they rose perfectly and came out toasty brown and crispy on the outside while staying fluffy on the inside. It’s all in the timing. And if you know the timing and aren’t afraid of heat, they are easy to make.
Since I came into possession of the recipe, I have shared it outside of my immediate family exactly once. A friend of a friend asked me for my recipe and I wrote it down for her along with what I thought were detailed instructions. She was most unkind and vocal in her “review.” Words like “flat” “hard” and “extremely disappointing” were tossed about freely. She seemed to feel that I had done something to sabotage her family’s breakfast. She suggested that I was one of “those” cooks who left out critical information in order to keep the title of world’s greatest biscuit maker for myself. Or something.
I’m sure she over-worked the dough or didn’t completely preheat the oven and the pan or used old baking powder or didn’t hold her mouth right or … I have no idea. I just know that she was unhappy, and that made me sad.
When I share a recipe, its with the hope that they will enjoy it as much as we did. I am afraid to share my biscuit recipe again. I don’t want to disappoint.
What about you? Do you share recipes or do you keep them to yourself?